Moments of Despair.

To hold a woman in his arms is the biggest pleasure provided to men's race - Ayn Rand
He hugged his mate. Cannot know what sensation ran through him but he was outright overwhlemed. Later on he imagines, remembers, dreams those moments. He doesn't call it desire satiation. He doesn't look in that paradigm. Even though his skin feels satiated. His heart throbs even faster. His mind doesn't leave that pre-conceived conception that it is not desire, it is sole-ful journey.
He weeps his heart out when he knows she no more belongs to her. He day dreams. He feels petty. He feels forlorn. As if no-one is meant for him. He thinks Is he so bad that she left her. He yells himself. 'What goddamn Me Lacking.' Well For sure. I don't know what he's lacking. I am not an expert. But one thing I know, These incidents are not worth the extent of self-denial one generally feels there-after.
Krishna's philosophy is quite admirable in this context. Meditative Attachment and Detachment.
Simulatneous attachment and detachment. Wot crap ! you'll think. Buddha says 'Self-denial'. Jesus says 'Detachment'. No one preaches 'Attachment'. Only Devil says 'Attachment'. Attachment to this world and worldly pleasures.
But Attachment in itself is half-truth. Simimliar to Detachment. Both are complementary to each other. Neither is Complete. Neither is Absolute. Thats why ? Jesus, Buddha, Mahavira, Zarathustra.. They all had partial scope. They preached something which is partial, incomplete and unfollowable for a common person.
On the other hand, Krishna had manifested all the dimensions of life. He fell in love. He ran with a girl. He did all sorts of tricks to win the battle of Mahabharat. He followed everything to set an example of a complete human behaviour. His life is colorful unlike Jesus and Buddha.
Be Attached so that you can feel happy at that moment. Following self-denial, you can only keep cribbing at others happiness.
Be detached so that you don't live in past/history. Be detached so that you are not identified in the moment gone. This simulatneity of attachment and detachment is very necessory to maintain good mental health in case break-downs mentioned earlier.